Love in Tunisia
Love in Tunisia
Love in Tunisia
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The term "Bezness" (also Beznezz, Besness, Bezzness, Beznes, Besnes) in context  with a holiday country originates from the English word "business", and generally refers to profit-oriented activities of locals to tourists with the sole aim of creating advantages for themselves.

In a narrower sense, the term is used for the pretention of love feelings toward women with the sole objective of gaining financial or material benefits or a residence permit in a western country, preferably in Europe.

The word was introduced in to the language probably in 1992 by the french movie Bezness by the tunisian author Nouri Bouzid.

A significant role in making this term popular plays, however, the german language internet website 1001Geschichte (1001 stories), on which real stories of bezness victimes are being published and where victims can find morale support and practical help. This website was the first who informed the broad public about bezness, not only in the internet, but as well through numerous articles and interviews in radio, TV, books and magazines.

Meanwhile, the term "Bezness" is also being used more and more in other languages, as well as traditional terms like "marriage fraud", "immigration scam", "Mariage Gris" or "Mariage Blanc", to just name a few.

By using the same term in many languages, the awareness of "Bezness" has increased significantly in the past years in various countries all over the world.

But this phenomenon is, as of today, still being underestimated due to ignorance ("only a few cases") and often blamed on the victims only ("it is their own fault").

True is, however, that in Tunisia alone, each year tens of thousands of bezness relations start, and in countries with similar preconditions (eg. Egypt, Turkey, Marocco, Cuba, Dominican Republic, Senegal, Sri Lanka, Kenia, etc.) it is not much different.

True is also that each and everyone can become a victim of Bezness, and many have been and are, even if they never knew or still do not know it.
In discussions, "Bezness" is often being used as a synonym for "criminal", but this is not always and entirely true.
It is correct, that, the longer a "Bezness" is going on, the probability for criminal acts is inreasing (Threatening, Force, Blackmail, Theft, Children abduction, etc.), but Bezness is, per se, not automatically criminal - in the same way in that someone who spends his holiday on the seaside will not automatically go swimming in the sea, it is very probable, but not certain, that he will.

Bezness is, closed looked at, like a game. In this game, one side, the Beznesser, tries to achieve his goals by letting the other in the dark about his goals, in fact, he will even assume that the other side is also having hidden goals of which he is not aware of.
In many cases, "Bezness" does not even start as such, but happens, because one side misinterprets the goals of the other side and assumes that the "counterpart" is also playing to win (gain more).
Often, there will not even be a discussion about it, because the opposing cultural views are not realized by the parties and each side assumes that there is an unspoken agreement about certain things. For example, a bezness man, who is starting a relationship with a quite unattractive woman is often convinced that he is entering an unspoken "business" in which his affection will be rewarded with money (like someone who enters a taxi is assuming that the taxi will drive him to his destination) - the woman receives a lover and the man receives money or a visa.

Especially the "lover" features of a man play a big role in Tunisia (and are mostly overrated and overestimated by themselves). Many tunisian men are, for example, absolutely convinced that western women start a relationsship with a tunisian man predominantely because European men can only deliver rare or bad sex (because they are "cold").
And this results then in that they expect a high reward for their exceptional "abilities" - unspokenly of course, as mentioned above.

Most Westerners are not familiar with such thoughts (they view an other culture from their own cultures view only) and assume instead, that they always find genuine interest and affection.
In other words, the source of  most relationship problems (and also bezness attempts) is a result of  ignorance and misinterpretation - and even if there would be some understanding, it would be almost impossible for someone to accept the views of a totally different culture.

The Beznesser

The main difference between a "Beznesser" and a "Papagallo" is the fact that he is not just into an amoreuse adventure for the holidays, and expects to spend some gainful hours or days, but he uses this only as the first step of his project.

In Tunisia, a Beznesser is in almost all cases  a tunisian man and in almost all cases he has a low economic (precarious, poor) background and only a very limited education or work training.

And even though there are also some females who could be called Beznesser, the situation is different here, because tunisian women who are actively looking for contacts to a westerner are in most cases considered to be simple prostitutes (in arabic countries there is a general agreement that arabic women shall and can only marry arabian men).

The AMIGA

But - to reach his goal, a "Beznesser" always needs a counterpart, and this counterpart is in almost all cases a western woman who suffers from the so-called "AMIGA syndrome".

The word "AMIGA" comes from the german sentence "Aber Meiner Ist Ganz Anders" (But my guy is totally different). In Latin, the word "amiga" means "girlfriend". Another term is "wearing thick, pink shaded, glasses".

Despite the high probability that a woman runs into a "Bezness" man, which is, very conservatively estimated, about 90%, the woman keeps in almost all cases her eyes shut to the reality and takes refuge in the above-mentioned conviction that "The other men may be like that, but mine is certainly different".
Along with that the woman tries to whitewash  doubts of others (and even her own) and/or ignores the actual situation - things that are clearly noticed by third parties, like her family or friends.

The fact is, however, that many short term relationships and most of the medium ones will fail in the long term - and this in most cases from reasons that come in addition to the ones, from which marriages between couples from the same country are suffering.

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